Are you a stud?

I was bored the other night and had nothing exciting to do, so I decided to have a look on gaydar (as you do). I wasn't looking for sex, just curious about who's online, etc. You see, I like watching people. Not in a voyeuristic way; I just find it fascinating how two people of completely different background can sometimes behave the same way and, on the other hand, people of similar background faced with the same situation will sometimes react in unpredictable ways.

Anyway, this is not the time for a "Nature vs Nurture" debate so I'll get back to the task in hand: Gaydar and people watching! So, as I was saying, I was looking around the website, checking out people's photos and reading (yes, some people do that on gaydar!) their profiles when I noticed something that made me think! (Yeap, that happens too sometimes!). Someone described himself as "stud" and then in a different part of his profile as "totally passive". Is this a contradiction or is just me who thought of a stud as someone who, well, does a lot of thrusting I guess. One could argue that it is possible to be passive and do some thrusting (What's the definition of an "active bottom"?) but still, in my mind, a stud is someone who is a top, when it comes to anal sexual intercourse.

The American Heritage Dictionary defines "stud" as:

stud² (stŭd)
n.

1. 1. A group of animals, especially horses, kept for breeding.
   2. A male animal, such as a stallion, that is kept for breeding.
   3. A stable or farm where these animals are kept.
2. Slang.
   1. A man regarded as virile and sexually active.
   2. A man regarded as attractive.
3. Games. Stud poker.

Of the above, 2a is the most relevant definition to this post. Based on that, it is technically possible to be "totally passive" and a "stud" but I am not convinced.

What do you think? Answers on a postcard!

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"stud." The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition. Houghton Mifflin Company, 2004. Answers.com 30 Jan. 2007. http://www.answers.com/topic/stud

Wow!

This New Year’s resolution idea really works! Second blog entry in less than 5 minutes! ;-)

But seriously, I have been very busy recently and not blogged much but that doesn’t mean that I haven’t thought about doing so. There many things in my mind and I wish there was a way of converting the thoughts that occur during my ever-increasing sleepless nights into blog entries without having to turn on my laptop at 3am :-(

2007 and has well and truly started and I sincerely hope that during the next 12 months you all find/experience/achieve what you’ve always dreamed of. As for me, I don’t really know what I’d like to experience in the next few months. My job is important to me and finding love would be nice but I won’t be forcing myself to find someone just so; nor will I be beating myself should I not find the One!

It’s the time of year when most TV channels have already reviewed the events that took place during 2006 and although I may be slightly late to do that, it’s never too late to review MY 2006, after all nobody knows what happened to me during this period.

I know I complain a lot online (as well as in real life) but I think 2006 was a good year for me, a real learning experience. I’ve experienced some fun times, some difficult times and some really embarrassing times! I have gone from cocky to humble to confident and modest. I am open to life’s ups and downs, even though I prefer the former to the latter. I have learned a lot about the meaning of friendship and how I shouldn’t take it for granted, or ignore the fact that even the most established relationships need some TLC.

Regarding my sexuality I have also learned more about what I like and dislike and what I want out of a relationship and sex. I’m still open to new experiences and will probably try everything once (or more, if I like it).

On the other side, I have become more aware of the possibilities of gaining access to instant sexual gratification and I don’t mean that type that involves my right hand only. What worries me is that ease with which I am willing to let my guard down and participate in activities that I wouldn’t condone of previously. Does that make me a bad person? I don’t think so. Does it make me a “typical gay”? I am afraid so. I guess I’m worried that a few years down the line I may start participating in activities that I disapprove of at the moment.

I can’t think of what’s changed over the past few days (other than the year!) but I am feeling surprisingly optimistic about 2007 (Year of the Pig in China, Boar in Japan). I don’t expect to find true happiness this year, that would be naïve. It would, however, be nice if I had a clearer view of what I want to achieve in life. At the moment I feel like I want everything but don’t have the time to do it in. I want to work hard and study. I would love to travel more and experience new things. Making more money would be good, as well as meeting someone to make me feel special.

New Year's resolution

Happy New Year y’all! I hope you’ve had a nice and relaxing break, or busy and fun-filled one, or a combination of the above.

My New Year’s resolutions for 2007? Make more of an effort to blog more often!