"And it's goodnight from her"
I was reading an article in the Evening Standard on Thursday which among others dealt with dating. One part caught my attention, particularly since I felt that part of it related to my post of the same day!
Excerpt:
And it's goodnight from her
Laura Topham's dating trail of celebrity parties and unsuitable men is over - why, she's even buying a flat.
[...] Yet excessive dating does damage - experiencing such choice has forever defined me as a critic.
Holding onto single life for too long is like holding onto virginity; status becomes stigma and waiting for the right man means no man coming at all. The more I date, the less able I am to commit - I'm compelled to keep gambling in case I'm dealt the man of my dreams. [...]
What do you think dear readers? Is dating a bit like buying ice cream? If you're only offered the options of chocolate or vanilla flavours, choosing is much easier than if you had to pick one out 10, 20, 30 flavours? In reality, most people would not get the option of so many guys/dates at the same time (unless taking part in an orgy!) but the option to wait a little bit longer for someone better does exist.
Depending on how long one has been single or, indeed, how old one might be, there might be a lot of pressure, from friends, family, etc. to compromise and engage in a relationship that initially may not be fulfilling for the parties involved. It's widely accepted that arranged marriages take place in this day and age.
Anyway, I'm digressing. In my recent dating experience, bad dates do not usually change the criteria I use to "approve" someone for further dates, however, they do increase the possible reasons I might reject a date offer in the future. Does that make me a critic? Or is my attitude too negative and should have a more positive outlook. Granted, one way of looking at bad dates is as a "learning experience".
Excerpt:
And it's goodnight from her
Laura Topham's dating trail of celebrity parties and unsuitable men is over - why, she's even buying a flat.
[...] Yet excessive dating does damage - experiencing such choice has forever defined me as a critic.
Holding onto single life for too long is like holding onto virginity; status becomes stigma and waiting for the right man means no man coming at all. The more I date, the less able I am to commit - I'm compelled to keep gambling in case I'm dealt the man of my dreams. [...]
What do you think dear readers? Is dating a bit like buying ice cream? If you're only offered the options of chocolate or vanilla flavours, choosing is much easier than if you had to pick one out 10, 20, 30 flavours? In reality, most people would not get the option of so many guys/dates at the same time (unless taking part in an orgy!) but the option to wait a little bit longer for someone better does exist.
Depending on how long one has been single or, indeed, how old one might be, there might be a lot of pressure, from friends, family, etc. to compromise and engage in a relationship that initially may not be fulfilling for the parties involved. It's widely accepted that arranged marriages take place in this day and age.
Anyway, I'm digressing. In my recent dating experience, bad dates do not usually change the criteria I use to "approve" someone for further dates, however, they do increase the possible reasons I might reject a date offer in the future. Does that make me a critic? Or is my attitude too negative and should have a more positive outlook. Granted, one way of looking at bad dates is as a "learning experience".
Labels: Dating
posted by gayboydiary | 11:17 PM
2 Comments:
I never thought of it like that, or if I had when dating I'd forgotten. But you are right, bad experiences do make you more picky in terms of filtering out the chaff!
ahoj
Unless there is a deal breaker, I try to work it and not be picky at all. After all, no perfect man is waiting for me as there is no perfect thing on this planet according to Plato. that doesn't mean I am cheap, does it? :-)
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